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Take a look at this joke. After you chuckle, let me clue you into why this joke is truly disturbing.  A 18-year-old girl thought this joke was funny and distributed this joke to others. Before you accuse me of being overly sensitive, keep reading to understand why this action of this probably beautiful 18 year-old girl upsets me beyond words.

First, it’s only a joke, right? What’s the big deal, you say? Let me break this joke down further. Let me explain what the real issue is for me. Why would this joke lead to a post?  Hmm, perhaps because the breakdown in communication screams out in this joke which unfortunately is very common today in our youth as well as adults.

I have no issue with the fact the guy was looking at a girl porn site. I find it offensive that women today still don’t understand that men need additional stimulus daily. There is nothing wrong with men looking at other women in any form whether naked or dressed. It is a basic fact that woman need to realize. That issue of insecurity within women to judge men for this behavior makes me nuts too. In the words of  the great Jeff Foxworthy, “Ladies, men are simple. Give them a beer and show them something naked.” So, if she would have accepted his answer, there would be no need to discuss this further.

I also have no issue with the guy describing the problem of weight of the woman.  Truth needs to be told if you truly care about a person. Holding back the truth is never acceptable period. If she is in fact overweight, then by all means, he should be honest in answering this question. As well, if he would have been honest in why he needed another outlet of sexual entertainment, maybe the weight issue wouldn’t have come up at all. Something like….”Yes, honey, you are a tad heavy but that’s not why I look at this site. I enjoy women of all sizes and it trips my trigger. Do you really mind?” If he could have phrased that answer with a tad bit more consideration like that, I would not be writing this.

Here’s the issue that is bugging me. They are both guilty of not being honest to each other. They are both guilty of a true lack of consideration for each other. As well, this is acceptable humor that our youth embraces?  God, doesn’t that bother anyone? I get that older people will see this and laugh their asses off since we are a tad more jaded anyway. But a beautiful young girl is already that blind to this issue? Wow, that’s not ok.

At 18, she accepts the fact that this guy humiliated this girl. By the act of sending this joke out to others, she obviously agrees with him. Which in turn is now safe to assume that she applauds the way he handled the situation of further insulting the girl. Now, where do you think her self-esteem is at this point if this is funny to her seriously.  As well,  it safe to assume that she identifies with the guy. Think about that for a second. She should find this offensive for the simple fact that another woman is being humiliated. She should be empathetic to this woman’s rejection. This young woman is already so jaded that she can’t see how wrong this whole joke is or the implications that this joke presents. Wow, that is huge.
The whole joke reeks of insecurity, rejection, and humiliation, but how many people laugh at that today. Mind you, I am far from being on the politically correct bandwagon. I find a ton of offensive humor truly fantastic. Perhaps I am being too sensitive, but the underlying issues of this innocent joke choked all the humor out of it for me.

My beautiful 5-year-old in quite a few years will encounter this type of situation with this type of guy possibly. How bad will it be then? Sigh…so teach her to be bitter young so she won’t be disappointed later when dealing with men? Do I prepare her for the utter breakdown of consideration in her communication with men so I won’t listen to her cry herself to sleep?  How do possibly explain this to her so that she will understand?  Honey, relationships will be utterly brutal without any consideration for your feeling so make sure you don’t let it bother you?
So the mother in me responded last night in anger to this joke. In the light of day, the writer edited this piece with clear thought of how this joke impacted me. It is not the rantings of a bitter women, but the clear concern of a mother for a child that will face this type of situation that prompted this post. I hope it makes some impact.

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